Sunday, September 18, 2005

Excerpts From Tonight's Bedtime Tantrum

Bella particularly resisted the turning out of the lights tonight at the appointed time. Since we were watching Cartoon Network just prior, she was especially upset at the turning off of the television. Here are just a few choice excerpts from the 30 minutes of crying and screaming before she finally succumbed and went to her bed, and to sleep.

"WHERE'S MY REMOTE CONTROL?"

"TURN ON MY SHOW!"

"EVER'! BODY! GOT! TO! LEAVE! ME! 'LONE!"

"THE SUN NEEDS TO COME UP NOW! IT IS NOT BEDTIME!"

And our personal favorite, when we both had to put pillows over our heads to stifle the laughter:

"MOMMY N' DADDY YOU ARE MAKIN' ME NUTS!"

When she calmed down and I got her settled into her little bed, she asked me, "Mommy, you're not angry?"

ME: "Of course not, Honey. I'm not angry."

BELLA: "You're happy?"

ME: "Yes, Sweetheart, I'm very happy. I love you." (I kiss her about 10 times)

BELLA: (Quietly) "Mommy's happy, Daddy's happy, and Bella is sooo sad." (Pronounced "say-ud" in her sweet little Southern drawl.)

So I kissed her 10 or 20 more times, and showed her the moon out her window, which she loves. The child LOVES the moon. The fact that the moon is visible from her room and not from ours is a major incentive in getting her to choose that room over ours. And I leave her blind up so she can see when the sun comes up and she can get out of bed. She asked me to lie down on the big bed in her room, which I did for about 5 minutes. When I left her, she was listening to Bach, and mellowing out considerably. So far, the Great Bed Switch is going well, occasional screaming tantrums aside.

23 comments:

  1. I have a 2 yr old making a similar transition. She's discovered how to climb out of the crib, but tends to get stuck halfway there - so for her own middle-of-the-night safety, she ended up on the couch until we got her big girl bed. Too bad her unintelligible screaming doesn't have the Southern accent - that might just be cute enough to bear!

    ps: the more comments I make the longer the word verification strand gets! I quit now!

    ReplyDelete
  2. That is so cool that you have your daughter listening to Bach! Classical music is suppose to be very good for brain development - will help her with match/science and foreign languages, all tough subjects. Smart parents!

    ReplyDelete
  3. Just wait, Erin...she will. And it will be in HER words that you will have that moment of clarity and realize, "Oh, Lord, I speak like I'm from Mayberry!"

    ReplyDelete
  4. Oh, anything we can do that will help THOSE skills...I'll do for her! Her poor mother is an innumerate. Thank goodness Daddy's not. We really do want to get her some program for learning Spanish early, because she picks up and uses in conversation the Spanish words she learns on "Dora The Explorer". We're not allowed to open the driveway gate without saying "abre". :-)

    ReplyDelete
  5. Why Don't You Leave That Poor Girl 'Lone? You are apparently very mean parents, not letting her stay up all night watching cartoon network. What were you thinking? :-)

    I have a great book for Bella. I loved it as a kid and bought it for my kids who loved it too. If I can remember to look for it in the bookshelf upstairs, I'll sent it to you. Need your address tho. Email me.

    ReplyDelete
  6. Margalit, thanks, that would be great! She LOVES books. I don't think I have your email address, but mine is mishahouse at aol dot com.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Thanks, Rowan--she keeps us in stitches. Just a few minutes ago, there was a commercial on (I was watching TiVo'd Buffy) for some upcoming baseball game. Bella hugged me--she's very very huggy today--and said, "Mommy, I love you like a baseball player!"

    What does THAT mean? :-)

    ReplyDelete
  8. She's funny. Alan isn't that verbal when complaining about bedtime, he just cries.

    ReplyDelete
  9. Leslie, she is definitely VERBAL. About everything! ;-) Now, she's not speaking Latin, as I'm sure LUKE will be any day, and she's not as amenable about things as Alan, but she certainly does speak her mind. We hardly ever wonder what she wants!

    ReplyDelete
  10. Latin, ha.
    Tonight we told Luke that if he tidied up his toy room after dinner, he could watch some TV if he wanted to. After dinner and the tidying of the toyroom, we got all distracted and spent half an hour having a ball doing a big jigsaw puzzle. Bedtime came, we went off to brush teeth, and he had the giant quivering-lip sudden revelation: "Mummy - I - I - I forgot to watch TEEVEE!"

    All was set to deteriorate rapidly; only some quick schtick with a loony rendition of "Follow the yellow brick road... we're OFF to see the lizard..." averted a disaster.

    Luke and Bella, separated at birth?

    Lara

    ReplyDelete
  11. Hellooooo! Thanks for stopping by my blog! My Mom just got a standard poodle. He's such a sweetie. She really researched the breed and decided upon it because they are such good all-around dogs. Plus she wanted a dog she could take on her hiking trips with her.

    ReplyDelete
  12. I have a Spanish Cd-Rom that I got about a year ago, it's really pretty good. There are 3 games on there that teach the words, and I think Bella would be able to use it even now at her age. I play it and hold Mikenna at the computer. She likes looking at the pictures, and exposing babies to the sounds of another language is supposed to make them be able to learn it easier later.
    On the TV issue, I can only say that it doesn't get any easier as they get older.
    Amber is 15, and we still have the same exact conversation you described, only it's her making me nuts, and I'm the one having the tantrum! Instead of SpongeBob and Rugrats, it's Inuyasha, Robot Chicken, and the intellectual delight of South Park. Best of luck! :-)

    ReplyDelete
  13. Lara: He FORGOT to watch Teevee? That is hilarious. You are verrrry savvy at being able to distract him out of a full-blown "big mad". We are definitely starting a day late and a dollar short on reinforcing routines, but our own lives have been so "up in the air" lately, that Bella has just bobbed along like a cork, very adaptable and happy...and now we're changing the rules. Ugh.

    ReplyDelete
  14. OK, but tell the truth--don't you laugh at Robot Chicken? I do. What is she doing up that late, anyway? Whenever Inuyasha or Avatar come on, Bella goes nuts, even though she's never seen as episode of either. She just *thinks* she must see them.

    ReplyDelete
  15. Oh Belinda I so did not expect to distract him out of this wind-up: I think the success of the distraction took us both by surprise! It was a definite change from the past few weeks of DOGGED PERSISTENCE. The extent to which you enforce routines is always a tricky one isn't it? If you're happy to keep bobbing along and it's doing no harm, I can't see the problem with it? We do have a few that we're fairly solid on, bedtime routine (toilet-teeth-jammies), the fact that if you're too "tired" to sit up at dinnertime you go lie on your bed (not play or watch TV), please and thankyou. But most of these will get varied if he's sick or something anyway.

    Lara

    ReplyDelete
  16. Oh, she and Ben will be quite the pair when they marry...he loves the LEAVE! ME! LONE! line. Usually spoken when we are trying to ignore his grumpy self and he's trying to get us to give him a reason to be more upset, the poor dear.

    Ooh...do you think we could have grandchildren with southern accents? That would be too cute. Look at me speaking of them like they're kittens ("I want an orange one with stripes and a grey one with white paws....oh, and one with a southern accent, please").

    ReplyDelete
  17. I don't see how they'd escape it, G. This drawl is large, y'all. She bumps her HAY-ud and gets in her BAY-ud and sometimes is SAY-ud...like tonight, when she was IN BED AT 9:30!!!!!!!!!! but said quietly, "Isabella is so sad."

    How's our Daisy, speaking of pets?

    WHY ARE WE BOTH STILL UP?!?!?!???

    ReplyDelete
  18. lol@Gretchen's Ben.

    We've been getting 'GO AWAY', and attempting to coach a more polite alternative. So the other night we were saying goodnight, and Luke lay there in bed with his angelic little face on, and said seriously, "Mummy, I would like to be alone please." All I could do to not crack up.

    ReplyDelete
  19. OMG, Lara--did you make it out of the room before you died laughing?
    "Please, Mummy..." It is TOO MUCH. In my mind, he sounds not so much like an Australian as...Oliver Twist! I luuuuv him.

    ReplyDelete
  20. I luuuuuv him, too. No, I cracked up on the spot and kissed him goodnight.

    Bad habit du jour - he's begun starting every sentence he speaks with "BUT, ..." I'm trying to figure out why it's so irritating.

    ReplyDelete
  21. Claire loves the moon too. She finds it in the daytime and points it out to me when I wouldn't even think to look. I love having a verbal child, she is always saying something funny. She's almost getting smarter than me though, I din't know what I'll do then.
    Sewinmama

    ReplyDelete
  22. Hey, I remember when I became smarter than MY mother! Funny....it didn't last long. ;-)

    ReplyDelete